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Dr. M is the author of five advice books for tweens and teens. Her latest is Where Should I Sit at Lunch? The Ultimate 24/7 Guide to Surviving the High School Years. She enjoys dancing, reading, working out and talking with young people about the issues that concern them. She holds a Ph.D. in Developmental Psychology.
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Liz, a first-year college student, is the co-author of three books: Ask Dr. M and Liz; Getting to Know the Real You: 50 Fun Quizzes Just for Girls, and Girls: What's So Bad About Being Good? She loves to dance, paint, make collages, hang out with friends and, of course, give advice.
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Dear Dr. M & Liz,
Hi! My name is Angela and yes, I need advice. My friend's brother died and I feel bad for him since his brother was his best friend. And now since his brother died, I'm more in his life and I'm starting to have feelings for him again because I used to like him in the middle of the school year, but I stopped, but now I like him again and I told him so. But he said it's not the right time for him right now and I broke up with my boyfriend just for him and now I don't have him, but I really like him. Do you think I should wait or do you think I should just move on? Please help me. Please, I really need your advice.
—Angela, 15, Pennsylvania
Dear Angela,
What your friend needs from you now, more than anything else, is your compassion. Losing a brother who was also a best friend is almost unbearably sad. Your friend was honest when he told you that it's not the right time for him to start a relationship. He is mourning a great loss and can't focus on anything romantic with you or anyone else. Give your friend time and space to grieve, and show him a friend's concern and sympathy. Sometime in the future, the time might be right for a different kind of relationship.
—Dr. M
Dear Angela,
If you really like this guy as more than just a friend, I don't think you should move on and forget about it. But at the same time you shouldn't drop everything for him when it's possible that nothing will come of it. I think you should let your feelings develop or fade without trying to force yourself into liking or not liking him. And most importantly, stay friends with him because it seems like he really needs you in his life right now.
—Liz
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