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Dr. M is the author of five advice books for tweens and teens. Her latest is Where Should I Sit at Lunch? The Ultimate 24/7 Guide to Surviving the High School Years. She enjoys dancing, reading, working out and talking with young people about the issues that concern them. She holds a Ph.D. in Developmental Psychology.
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Liz, a first-year college student, is the co-author of three books: Ask Dr. M and Liz; Getting to Know the Real You: 50 Fun Quizzes Just for Girls, and Girls: What's So Bad About Being Good? She loves to dance, paint, make collages, hang out with friends and, of course, give advice.
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Dear Dr. M & Liz,
I'm starting to talk to a guy in a relationship kind of way but he's 26. I don't know if I should go on with this so I'm asking for you to help me make a decision. Thank you for your help.
—Traci, 17, California
Dear Traci,
At this point in your lives, the age difference is very large, too large for a relationship. Most likely, the two of you have very different interests, concerns and dreams. You didn't tell me anything about him, but at 26, he's probably looking for a more serious relationship than you are and focusing on establishing himself in a career. On the other hand, you're probably thinking about going to college and becoming more independent. My advice is to connect with guys closer to your age.
—Dr. M
Dear Traci,
Although you may have a lot in common with this guy and really like him, it's important that you realize that he's in a much different place in his life than you are right now. A nine-year age difference may be something that can be overcome for adults, but you're not quite an adult yet. Maybe you can try to just be casual friends with this guy if you really feel a strong connection with him.
—Liz
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