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Dr. M is the author of five advice books for tweens and teens. Her latest is Where Should I Sit at Lunch? The Ultimate 24/7 Guide to Surviving the High School Years. She enjoys dancing, reading, working out and talking with young people about the issues that concern them. She holds a Ph.D. in Developmental Psychology.
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Liz, a first-year college student, is the co-author of three books: Ask Dr. M and Liz; Getting to Know the Real You: 50 Fun Quizzes Just for Girls, and Girls: What's So Bad About Being Good? She loves to dance, paint, make collages, hang out with friends and, of course, give advice.
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Dear Dr. M & Liz,
My BFF is hanging out with this girl about two years older than us, and isn't hanging out with me. She is my BFF and I love her, but summer's now over, and I saw her once all summer because she is always hanging out with the other girl. I want to be her friend, but I want friends that actually hang out with me. I don't know what to do about her. She doesn't have that many friends, and she and I are so different that I don't even want to hang out with her anymore. What should I do?
—Leanna, 13, Maine
Dear Leanna,
It sounds like you're hurt and trying to protect yourself by saying you don't want to hang out with your BFF anymore, but also saying that you still want to be friends with her. Your confused feelings are understandable since your BFF only managed to see you once all summer, preferring to spend most of her time with someone who might be seen as cooler because she's older. Now that you and your BFF are back at school together, the two of you have the same decision to make—do you want to try to recover the kind of friendship you had before the summer? If you both answer "yes," then your friendship has a chance, but probably not before the two of you have a heart-to-heart conversation about what happened this summer.
—Dr. M
Dear Leanna,
If you go to school with your BFF, things might get easier once school starts. Since you're the same age you might have classes together and are more likely to have similar schedules and see each other in school. Don't just leave your friendship up to chance though. Let her know that you want to hang out more often and suggest specific things you can do together. You could also let her know that it's okay that she has another close friend, as long as it doesn't get in the way of your friendship. Maybe the three of you can all hang out together sometime.
—Liz
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